If you’ve been following my blog for a while you may remember that my step-dad Jerry took a bad tumble in late 2011 just after I returned from France.
I received word that he passed away early this morning.
He was ready.
My mom and Jerry married after both of them had been widowed. They had a brief but very happy 2.5 year marriage before she passed away in 1982. He outlived her by 30 years and during those years, he enjoyed a third very happy marriage. We kept in touch over the years. He was grandpa to Sara and Duncan. I am grateful to him for the many kindnesses he showed to me and my family through the ensuing years.
I remember his words to me on one of my last visits to see him, “I know there is something else out there. I’m ready.”
As he was my last remaining “relative” of my mom and dad’s generation, I asked him two years ago, if I might be able to ask him questions, now and then, about what he had learned in life.
He laughed and said, “Of course!”
So one day, I called him up and said, “Jerry, you’ve had three very happy marriages. What is your secret?”
He chuckled and then gave me these simple points:
- Have your own individual interests as well as some interests in common.
- Have your own friends and have friends in common.
- Speak kindly to one another and have respect for each other.
- And, never ever go to bed angry.
Thank you for everything, Jerry.